My car has the spiderwebbing scratches really bad as well. This car seems to have it worse than any other car I've owned. Not sure if it's the cheap paint BMW uses or some of the care the car received outside of my hands. As stated above, a clay bar and a polish/sealant/protectant should alleviate the scratches. I plan to do this after the Winter months.
-2012 VW MKVI GTI Autobahn w/ DSG (SOLD)
-2008 E82 N54 135i Coupé 6MT
-2001 E46 M3 Coupé 6MT (Retired)