damn... maybe I don't need the tool...
http://www.1addicts.com/forums/showthread.php?t=415111
yeah I think this is the solution, I remember getting to these menus before, and when I tried when the light first came up I couldn't get to it, maybe I did hold in the trip reset for 7 seconds and I just don't remember
interesting that the BT tool doesn't show that stuff though, I would expect/hope to be able to get all the info/functionality of the in-car dash menu, especially since I don't have navi with a screen/idrive
you can probably disregard this thread