Well, did some more review of threads and found the pinout data. Did some continuity testing and found the pins for the microphone were on the connector labeled for the TCU. I took chance and reversed the TCU and MULF connector on the harness and now everything works. Looks like the harness connectors may have been miss labeled, or I just got them backwards on initial install.
Even did a voice command call to my wife and it showed her picture on the screen from the phone contacts.
So, problem solved.