Also i just thought of something. You have a six cylinder model. I only learnt this at a later day when i wanted to retrofit Cruise Control With Braking Function. The DME/DSC modules between 4/6 cylinder cars are different. This may be why your sports mode/steering wheel buttons dont work.
Because you have a 6 Cylinder model you might want to try option $544 instead of $540
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