BMW 1 Series Coupe Forum / 1 Series Convertible Forum (1M / tii / 135i / 128i / Coupe / Cabrio / Hatchback) (BMW E82 E88 128i 130i 135i)
 





 

View Poll Results: How long did you date before getting married?
under a year 12 9.76%
1-1.99 years 22 17.89%
2-2.99 years 16 13.01%
3-6 years 27 21.95%
over 6 years 17 13.82%
still not married 29 23.58%
Voters: 123. You may not vote on this poll

Post Reply
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread
      02-25-2019, 10:34 AM   #45
RoarinRow
Private First Class
RoarinRow's Avatar
United_States
66
Rep
193
Posts

Drives: 2012 328i Glacier Silver
Join Date: Jun 2016
Location: Elk Grove, CA

iTrader: (0)

Garage List
2012 BMW 328i  [0.00]
2014 BMW X1  [0.00]
I've been married for the last 14/15 years. I don't think there should be a time limit on when you 'should' get married. I wouldn't look at it from a time prospective.

Bottom line is do you have your life together (was gonna a say $hit together). Meaning a good stable job. Without a good job, it will be tough as hell to have a marriage, a family, a home, etc. It all starts from having money, at least more disposable money.

If you have that checked off your list, then great!

Then in your mental notes does she meet all the standards in your list, other than looks? Good person, caring, helpful, etc.

If you have that checked off your list, then great! and what are you waiting for?
__________________
2012 328i Sedan - Glacier Silver - 18" Toyo Proxes 4 Plus Tires with Nürburgring Metal Grey Rims, H&R Sport Springs, VRSF Intercooler, JB+, aFe Air Filter, Magnaflow Exhaust, Carbon Fiber accents, SS Pedals, Bavsound System, BMW CCA member since 2015. First Bimmer - 2000 Z3 M. Second Bimmer - 2014 X1 sDrive28.
Appreciate 0
      02-25-2019, 10:35 AM   #46
RnmEvo9
Banned
247
Rep
1,827
Posts

Drives: 2007 335i
Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: Pembroke Pines, FL

iTrader: (2)

What are the risks in getting married as a man as opposed to staying a bachelor (serious question)?
Appreciate 0
      02-25-2019, 11:29 AM   #47
dreamingat30fps
Lieutenant Colonel
United_States
5256
Rep
1,904
Posts

Drives: Miata, Cayenne, Model 3, F350
Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: South Florida & NC

iTrader: (1)

Quote:
Originally Posted by knowthebattle View Post
Went to a court, got a cert, went to a bank, got it notarized, turned cert into court.

Getting married can be done for the low fee of $79.
And if we ever decided to get married (unlikely at this point, but who knows) that's what we would do.
Appreciate 0
      02-25-2019, 11:33 AM   #48
Maynard
Colonel
United_States
3805
Rep
2,860
Posts

Drives: 228iX & M2C
Join Date: Mar 2016
Location: Upstate NY

iTrader: (1)

Married a week after I turned 20, and it will be 34 years in August. If you are feeling she is the one, go for it. Don't put so much stock in all the 'be careful' and 'make sure everything is 100% compatible' - of course you are both going to change a lot over time. If you are going for the long run it takes working things out as they come up, no matter how compatible you are. If you don't have the tolerance for that, then probably better staying a bachelor.
Appreciate 1
wrickem2101.00
      02-25-2019, 11:37 AM   #49
minn19
Lieutenant General
minn19's Avatar
13970
Rep
10,061
Posts

Drives: 24 Z06, 23 CT4VBW, 22 PFinder
Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: Minnesota

iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by Grumpy Old Man View Post
So coming from an old fella, I would say you're young and you will both grow and hopefully mature between now and when you're 30. Don't rush into it.

What's an "SO"?
Sakhir Orange.
Appreciate 8
King Rudi13152.00
DETRoadster11446.00
Darth One6612.50
SYT_Shadow11421.00
Dang3r12503.00
wrickem2101.00
      02-25-2019, 12:27 PM   #50
Maestro
Major
1001
Rep
1,268
Posts

Drives: 2007 335i Sedan, 2021 X3
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Philadelphia

iTrader: (0)

There is definitely no a trend here that is for sure.

Dated for 7 yrs, meet when we were 17, and we went to 2 different college on opposite ends of the state so we dated all through college, I use to say I was keeping my option open but most option were crazy (reference the Crazy Hot Scale). Probably would never have gotten marries but the wife force the issue. So we did the big wedding (250 people) then moved to Calif for a Job and had kids 7 yrs later and we have been married 30 yrs now.
Appreciate 3
King Rudi13152.00
wrickem2101.00
      02-25-2019, 12:45 PM   #51
Alfisti
Brigadier General
6453
Rep
3,009
Posts

Drives: 2008 Saab 9-3 Combi
Join Date: Nov 2014
Location: Toronto, Canada

iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by WestRace View Post
If I have to guess, you're pretty rich.

Interestingly enough, most poor people probably have the opposite mentality.
Not sure I follow?
Appreciate 0
      02-25-2019, 12:52 PM   #52
Dogeeseegod
Private First Class
Dogeeseegod's Avatar
189
Rep
190
Posts

Drives: 2009 Blue Water 128i-6
Join Date: Mar 2018
Location: North Idaho

iTrader: (0)

first marriage:
dated 4 years, engaged for 1 year married for 2 years, ended a bit ugly.
last marriage:
dated for 6 months, engaged for 1 month, married for 7 awesome years!
Appreciate 1
King Rudi13152.00
      02-25-2019, 02:00 PM   #53
minn19
Lieutenant General
minn19's Avatar
13970
Rep
10,061
Posts

Drives: 24 Z06, 23 CT4VBW, 22 PFinder
Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: Minnesota

iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by Dogeeseegod View Post
first marriage:
dated 4 years, engaged for 1 year married for 2 years, ended a bit ugly.
last marriage:
dated for 6 months, engaged for 1 month, married for 7 awesome years!
This is what I keep telling my wife. I'm her first/only husband. I keep telling her that her second marriage will be better.

She is my second wife. First wife was the High School sweetheart thing and we knew each other for a few years before getting married very young. We lasted about two years since she wanted to date other people while we were married. For some weird reason I objected to this arrangement.

My second wife and I have been together for over 20 years and married for 17 of them.
Appreciate 5
DETRoadster11446.00
Lups11819.50
Dang3r12503.00
King Rudi13152.00
      02-25-2019, 03:22 PM   #54
Lups
...
Lups's Avatar
11820
Rep
15,400
Posts

Drives: I don't own a car.
Join Date: Mar 2014
Location: Lost as usual

iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by lsturbointeg View Post
When the wifey and I went out on our first date she paid for everything...I knew she was a keeper! Silver Anniversary next month
We dated for a month and he told me he can handle my crazy ass.

"Sure I can. I leave books lying around and keep the big tools away from you and when I can't babysit you, my dad can. "

15 years later, this is still working.
__________________
Quote:
Originally Posted by Joekerr View Post
You're still a little new here, so I'll let you in on a little secret. Whenever Lups types gibberish, this is an opportunity for you to imagine it to be whatever you'd like it to be.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Delta0311 View Post
How would you know this? Did mommy catch you jerking off to some Big Foot porn ?
Appreciate 2
King Rudi13152.00
      02-25-2019, 03:33 PM   #55
Lups
...
Lups's Avatar
11820
Rep
15,400
Posts

Drives: I don't own a car.
Join Date: Mar 2014
Location: Lost as usual

iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by minn19 View Post
This is what I keep telling my wife. I'm her first/only husband. I keep telling her that her second marriage will be better.

She is my second wife. First wife was the High School sweetheart thing and we knew each other for a few years before getting married very young. We lasted about two years since she wanted to date other people while we were married. For some weird reason I objected to this arrangement.

My second wife and I have been together for over 20 years and married for 17 of them.
I wanted to get divorced once. Told him that. I ended up with a black eye.

"You can't divorce me, I let you bring one book to bed to stop the stupid conversation and you knock it to your own eye when you pass out. Do you know how long it takes men to realize you can't be left on your own for more than six hours?"

To be honest, my midlife crisis was a bit lame.
__________________
Quote:
Originally Posted by Joekerr View Post
You're still a little new here, so I'll let you in on a little secret. Whenever Lups types gibberish, this is an opportunity for you to imagine it to be whatever you'd like it to be.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Delta0311 View Post
How would you know this? Did mommy catch you jerking off to some Big Foot porn ?
Appreciate 2
minn1913970.00
wrickem2101.00
      02-26-2019, 02:54 AM   #56
Dang3r
Schmollbraten
Dang3r's Avatar
Germany
12503
Rep
1,985
Posts

Drives: M4CPC // HP4 Comp.
Join Date: Jun 2015
Location: Liandri Central Core

iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by Lups View Post
To be honest, my midlife crisis was a bit lame.
Yeah, I was hearding stories that you was sitting into someones cage and just rattling at the lattice bars when you need short attention..ey?
__________________
Citizen of ///M - Town, where too much is just right

Some say, that my scrotum has its own small gravity field and when Im slowing down that brake lights come on at my buttox
Appreciate 0
      02-26-2019, 07:20 AM   #57
Yapakanichi
Monkey Marshall
Yapakanichi's Avatar
621
Rep
218
Posts

Drives: 2005 Z4 3.0i
Join Date: Dec 2016
Location: FL

iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by WestRace View Post
Sounds like a pretty romantic marriage.
Cause we wanted to save money? It was a financial decision. We said "hey when we have money we'll have a wedding". Well then we decided that a wedding is a waste of money.
Appreciate 3
King Rudi13152.00
minn1913970.00
DETRoadster11446.00
      02-26-2019, 07:32 AM   #58
King Rudi
Lieutenant Colonel
King Rudi's Avatar
13152
Rep
1,965
Posts

Drives: Meat Suit
Join Date: Sep 2017
Location: Planet Earth

iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by WestRace View Post
Sounds like a pretty romantic marriage.
Quote:
Originally Posted by knowthebattle View Post
Cause we wanted to save money? It was a financial decision. We said "hey when we have money we'll have a wedding". Well then we decided that a wedding is a waste of money.
Spending money and putting on a show does not equate to love or romance. There is absolutely nothing wrong with saving the money. Two people that truly love each other do not need a display of spending money for things to be romantic.

Some of the best times in one of my marriages is when we were piss poor. We had to get creative on how to spend our time as we couldn't go out for dinner or movies, etc. We recreated childhood memories as adults together. I can remember taking hikes during snow days, snow angels, snow ball fights in public and whatnot. It was like being a kid again and playing with your best friend. We were the closest that we ever were in our relationship during this time. I bought her a house 4 years later and she left me for someone with more money. Go figure. Spending money does not = romance.......youngsters....
Appreciate 3
minn1913970.00
DETRoadster11446.00
      02-26-2019, 09:00 AM   #59
spazzyfry123
Lieutenant Colonel
spazzyfry123's Avatar
4307
Rep
1,912
Posts

Drives: Here and There
Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: North Georgia Mountains

iTrader: (1)

Garage List
I got married less than three weeks ago. We had been dating for right about two years at that point. We made the decision a while back that we wanted to get married. I can honestly say out of all the gals "over the years" that not a single one clicked like she did. I felt pretty confident within just a few months of us dating that she'd be the one.

The marriage was as simple as it gets (short of going to the court and signing papers). We have a friend that has a nice house on a lake in the Blue Ridge Mountains that let us have it for a long weekend. Brought her parents, my parents, and a family friend that officiated. It was exactly what we wanted and it only cost us the booze and grub we decided to bring up there with us.

We figured that the wedding should be for us and not for the people attending. If there's money to be spent on a big wedding, let's redirect those funds to more important life moments rather than on a single night of partying. We do well for ourselves financially and both families are affluent, but I certainly think people can break the mentality that you have to wait to get married because you can't afford the wedding. Ours was a few hundred bucks all in.
Appreciate 6
shimmy232330.00
minn1913970.00
cmyx6go15579.50
King Rudi13152.00
      02-26-2019, 09:45 AM   #60
FuzzyPeaches
Private First Class
FuzzyPeaches's Avatar
491
Rep
197
Posts

Drives: 2011 M3 ZCP
Join Date: Jul 2018
Location: Atlanta

iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by spazzyfry123 View Post
I got married less than three weeks ago. We had been dating for right about two years at that point. We made the decision a while back that we wanted to get married. I can honestly say out of all the gals "over the years" that not a single one clicked like she did. I felt pretty confident within just a few months of us dating that she'd be the one.

The marriage was as simple as it gets (short of going to the court and signing papers). We have a friend that has a nice house on a lake in the Blue Ridge Mountains that let us have it for a long weekend. Brought her parents, my parents, and a family friend that officiated. It was exactly what we wanted and it only cost us the booze and grub we decided to bring up there with us.

We figured that the wedding should be for us and not for the people attending. If there's money to be spent on a big wedding, let's redirect those funds to more important life moments rather than on a single night of partying. We do well for ourselves financially and both families are affluent, but I certainly think people can break the mentality that you have to wait to get married because you can't afford the wedding. Ours was a few hundred bucks all in.
Dude! You got married!?! Congrats!
Appreciate 1
      02-26-2019, 09:54 AM   #61
Joekerr
Banned
7926
Rep
1,923
Posts

Drives: 2017 Audi S6
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: Toronto, ON

iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by spazzyfry123 View Post
I got married less than three weeks ago. We had been dating for right about two years at that point. We made the decision a while back that we wanted to get married. I can honestly say out of all the gals "over the years" that not a single one clicked like she did. I felt pretty confident within just a few months of us dating that she'd be the one.

The marriage was as simple as it gets (short of going to the court and signing papers). We have a friend that has a nice house on a lake in the Blue Ridge Mountains that let us have it for a long weekend. Brought her parents, my parents, and a family friend that officiated. It was exactly what we wanted and it only cost us the booze and grub we decided to bring up there with us.

We figured that the wedding should be for us and not for the people attending. If there's money to be spent on a big wedding, let's redirect those funds to more important life moments rather than on a single night of partying. We do well for ourselves financially and both families are affluent, but I certainly think people can break the mentality that you have to wait to get married because you can't afford the wedding. Ours was a few hundred bucks all in.

Congrats!!
Appreciate 1
      02-26-2019, 10:03 AM   #62
spazzyfry123
Lieutenant Colonel
spazzyfry123's Avatar
4307
Rep
1,912
Posts

Drives: Here and There
Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: North Georgia Mountains

iTrader: (1)

Garage List
Quote:
Originally Posted by FuzzyPeaches View Post
Dude! You got married!?! Congrats!
Damn, Joe, has it been that long since we were swapping wheels on the Mini??

Let's make some time. You guys still heading to the track this weekend?

Quote:
Originally Posted by Joekerr View Post
Congrats!!
Thanks!
Appreciate 1
      02-26-2019, 10:16 AM   #63
UncleWede
Long Time Admirer, First Time Owner
UncleWede's Avatar
United_States
17877
Rep
9,376
Posts

Drives: G01 X3 M40i Dark Graphite
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Oxnard, CA

iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by spazzyfry123 View Post
it only cost us the booze and grub ... Ours was a few hundred bucks all in.
So Mark sold you a gallon jug???


Congrats!
Appreciate 0
      02-26-2019, 10:19 AM   #64
spazzyfry123
Lieutenant Colonel
spazzyfry123's Avatar
4307
Rep
1,912
Posts

Drives: Here and There
Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: North Georgia Mountains

iTrader: (1)

Garage List
Quote:
Originally Posted by UncleWede View Post
So Mark sold you a gallon jug???


Congrats!
.
Attached Images
 
Appreciate 2
minn1913970.00
      02-26-2019, 10:23 AM   #65
UncleWede
Long Time Admirer, First Time Owner
UncleWede's Avatar
United_States
17877
Rep
9,376
Posts

Drives: G01 X3 M40i Dark Graphite
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Oxnard, CA

iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by spazzyfry123 View Post
Blue Ridge Mountains
SMH
Appreciate 0
      02-26-2019, 12:49 PM   #66
shimmy23
F15 daddymobile
shimmy23's Avatar
2330
Rep
3,496
Posts

Drives: GS X5
Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: WA

iTrader: (3)

I dated my wife for about 6 years before we got married. I proposed after 5 years. If you ask her, she'll tell you she was ready for the ring after a year... I had some maturing to do and was still in my mid 20s at the time. I can't pinpoint why, but i'm glad I waited.

When it came time to make wedding plans, she developed a spreadsheet that quickly gave us perspective on how much our wedding would cost. My wife is practical. We had the conversation of wedding vs. buying our first house... we decided to buy a house and have a small wedding at our house/park. I think we spent a total of $2500 on the wedding.

6 years later, we are still happy and in the same house with 2 kids. Lots of memories here, including the wedding, our first dog, kid 1, kid 2, etc.

There is never a right time for these life decisions... go with your gut and GL!
__________________
Appreciate 1
Post Reply

Bookmarks

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off



All times are GMT -5. The time now is 05:17 PM.




1addicts
Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.11
Copyright ©2000 - 2024, vBulletin Solutions Inc.
1Addicts.com, BIMMERPOST.com, E90Post.com, F30Post.com, M3Post.com, ZPost.com, 5Post.com, 6Post.com, 7Post.com, XBimmers.com logo and trademark are properties of BIMMERPOST