relationship question

[Explorer3253]

Originally Posted by bavarian19

It takes the right one to do that... Dont settle... You'll be much happier in the end...

yeah..u're right..i guess im just getting impatient...for the past 6 years i got used to having her around...

[Sedan_Clan]

Originally Posted by Explorer3253

yeah yeah..im sure its getting old but i figured since everyone else is asking...why not?

so i've known my "ex" for about 5 to 6 years...we were extremely close...did everything together and enjoyed every bit of it. We had some trust issues that I thought was being worked out (on her end). Last fall semester she got very shady and disappeared so I broke up with her. She ended up going out with some other guy and is currently with him. (it caught me off guard b/c i was her first real b/f and her first everything..she also claims that she didnt "do" anything with him which for some reason I dont believe if a guy talks to a girl for 8 months. (she said she is not that type of girl and was wrongof me to think she would, although I think she may of))

She claimed that she was getting very scared w/ me b/c we were getting too serious and also she relied me on everything for her in life and couldn't do anything herself and felt that if she didnt break away she'd be reliant on me always (i'm 2 years older and out of college). Last weekend I decided to sit down and talk with her after 8 months of not talking. She claims she loves me, am her soul mate, misses me, and wants to work things out. I went in looking for closure, and ended up leaving that night confused and getting all those old feelings back. I know I can't trust her right now and it would be a long road ahead if anything. I really don't know what to do. She is leaving the country this week for 2 months as it is. She said she would end things with him so we could start over and as of now she hasn't. She claims that she won't do it online and that his phone is messed up so she can't get in contact with him. She also said that she felt awkward b/c she will be breaking up with him out of nowhere since "nothing" was wrong. I advised her that if thats the case, stay with him and i'll keep it moving. She says that she needs me in her life and wants it to work.

I really care about her deeply but I am scared crapless to get hurt again. If she was to be 100% honest with me, I could eventually learn to trust her again. I just don't understand what I should do or what I should expect. Apparantly she hasn't told me anything yet. I don't know if shes still too young minded or what the case is. Shes going to be 22 next month. I've tried hanging out with other girls, and it never seems right. I never feel that same comfort level.

dp you think i should possibly be open about it or just attempt to walk away...i mean i've tried to walk away before but i keep thinking about her and getting pulled back in into contacting her

Bottom line....

...If you two truly love one another, and have the will to work through the rough spots, give it a try. Everybody makes mistakes and not one of us are perfect.

[Heidelberg328i]

She seems like another example of one of those "I don't know what the hell I want, so I will just go around screwing over everything that is good and dear to me" girls.

Cut slingload Bro....move on...

[TommyBahama]

pics? if she isnt really hot* then move on.


*i mean the kinda hot that makes you forget she is your first cousin.

[Explorer3253]

lol..wow..talk about bringing this one out the grave I thought I was leaving this issue back in 2006...it somehow followed me to 2007! hahaha

[Heidelberg328i]

yes...sorry for digging up the dead!...LOL!

[shragon]

she's 22, so i'm assuming you're 24. you're both young. she sounds pretty immature to me, and a lot of girls are at that age. move on. there's a lot of things to experience, don't let her hold you back especially after all the stupid things she's done.

[txusa03]

[Driv3r]

ok i know your problem 100%......she was your first time... thats the reason your so attached, I guarantee it. I had that before, although be it i was much younger... Listen, just go out and find something else, girlfriends and such in highschool are USUALLY just F$$$ buddys, and they both know it...

[shragon]

Originally Posted by txusa03

[txusa03]

Originally Posted by shragon

doing my best to lobby for it...